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Take Care Of You

Social distancing forces many people to stay home, work or school at home. Some people have extra hours for reflection and relaxation.

What more can you do with the extra hours?


Your closet, bedroom, and home office. Look over your email, texts messages, and website .

How do you start? Do one project per day. For example, your closet. Take everything out of the closet. Pick all the things you don’t need or want. Take them to your basement or garage for donation. Look over again and pick all the things you have not used for 2 years. Put them in a box and label “donation” for next year this time. Take a break. Hang your clothing neatly. Keep growing!

Delete and Update

Delete irrelevant emails and text messages. Create file for each ongoing and upcoming project. Update your website and social media site.

Keep growing -ll next week!

Everyday Self-care- BEL

“Give yourself the same care and attention that you give to others and “things” and watch yourself bloom.”

Self-care is what every human does!

Then why is self-care in the mainstream conversation? People are living longer, and many have access to advanced medical services compared to a few decades ago. However, many people continue to suffer and die from preventative/treatable diseases such as diabetes, hypertension, cancer, addictions, obesity, clinical depression, and others.

Before you question your self-care routine, examine your biology, environment, and lifestyle

Biology gives us about a fifty percent chance of having everything our parents have “good or bad.” Educate yourself and research the health history of your parents, grandparents, and close family members. Knowing thyself can help you decide on your mental, emotional, and physical health. For example, if your parents or grandparents live with alcoholism, stay away from alcohol and alcoholics. Or, if your mother or father is obese and has diabetes, eat junk and salty food only on your birthday.

Importantly, be honest with your primary care physician about your family health history. Also, for your benefit, erase the stigma and inform your doctor if your parent lives with mental illness such as clinical depression, schizophrenia, or others. Why? For prevention with immunization, early diagnosis, and prompt treatment!

The Environment: For your proper self-care, if you can leave an abusive home, toxic workplace, or relationships, leave now! A negative environment affects our mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Sometimes, emotional abuse can result in low productivity and unhappiness. APA asserts that happy people are more likely to be successful in their careers, relationships, and health.

Define your Lifestyle! Our lifestyle influences how we live, a meaningful or miserable life! Four US presidential candidates are in their 70s, and all of them have a brutal schedule. Why are they still able to run around the whole country campaigning? Maybe because of their genes, family support, or positive attitude. How is your thought, feeling, or action speaks on your health, family, community, religion, career, hobbies, or culture?

You can choose to be alive and well so that you can do other things. Know your worth, and take proper care of yourself!

Which one comes first, your health, career, or family?

Personal Reflection

Self-reflection is the school of wisdom-Baltasar Gracian

My partner was more excited than usual last weekend. I observed that he spoke with his high school classmate for hours. Without any interruption or questioning, he decided to “gist” me what they were talking about- their youthful experience both good and bad. The era of a boarding house in Nigerian high schools. Some of the boarding houses were a house of terror controlled by what we know today, as terrorists. The two friends reflection reminds me of the art of gratefulness, perseverance, and forgiveness!

Two helpful ways for personal reflection:

  1. Let go of the “bad” and focus on the “good” experience. How? Replace your negative experience with anything positive in your life. Are you alive and healthy? Are you reading this post on social media? Alternatively, are you working on a new project or an idea?
  2. Sincere personal reflection involves looking inward and questioning oneself. How? Examine the lessons from your past experiences and create a plan to move forward to help yourself and others. I believe every experience counts in the life of everyone. We learn from our experiences what to do and what NOT to do.

If you continue to struggle with letting go of your 10-30 years negative experience and it makes you sick or less productive, seek professional help. I recommend a psychotherapist you like or admire for childhood trauma and a specialty coach for any improvement or a change in your life.

I am a lifestyle coach and currently, available on Mondays and Fridays for online sessions!